I never announced I wanted to be
a swinger. I never woke up one day saying
“I think today I will join The Lifestyle and adopt the “swinger” mentality in
my relationships”. For a long time it
was not even something I was familiar with.
Here and there I would kiss girls at the bar, grab big boobs that looked
beautiful and always thought the female body was sexually appealing.
I found swinging through an ex.
He was fairly experienced and to tell you the truth, it came naturally to me. I like to think my enjoyment for sex lead to
me wanting to experience having more people in the bedroom. He introduced me to a group of couples who
were involved in The Lifestyle and I honestly felt like for the first time, in
a very long time, I was encouraged to be my sexy self. I realized one common thing that forced me to
gravitate towards these people was that they were real with each other, one
hundred per cent themselves.
If you are in an amazing
relationship I am a FIRM believer that swinging can help you meet that next
level. When I became single after that, I experimented a lot. With other women,
men, groups, couples...sex was natural, real and genuinely got my attention.
When the boyfriend and I became a
couple, we expected that things wouldn't be the "norm". We took to
The Lifestyle pretty quickly. I got
turned on thinking about multiple people totally letting loose together in
orgasmic ecstasy. And then afterwards
you still are with someone who loves and cares for you and who cherishes the
memories of a crazy sexy night with you.
Who wouldn't want to try it out…at least once?
Another quality I enjoy about The
Lifestyle is that you really have to be your honest self (and be ok with who
you are) and that it pushes you to figure out what YOU want. You also have to learn to be ok with your
body physically and accept your beauty.
When you are being fucked by your boyfriend in at an adult club in front
of twenty or so people, you cannot be focused on what your breasts look like in
some position; you have to be focused on what you two have going on together.
Through our experiences, I have
also realized that you can never judge a book by its cover. As a person, I’d like to think I have become
less judgmental. Most of the couples we
have met seem like everyday people you’d see holding hands walking down the
street. A few drinks and laughs later,
though, some pretty freaky things are going on between the four of us in some
hotel room… People can be crazy sexy when you least expect it.
The Lifestyle is what you make it;
as a couple, you must set your boundaries together. Can you guess what that means? A lot of communicating. You both have to be able to discuss what you don’t
like going on (i.e must use condoms), what your fantasies are, what couple you
think sounds ok to meet up with/hook up with/talk to/peruse. I mean honestly, as a couple, we are always
talking about these things. They are
ever changing and ever evolving depending where you are as a person and where
you both are as a couple. It is an extremely
healthy requirement to be on the same page.
Even recollecting together the day after a sexy night opens up doors to
knowing what your partner is turned on by.
I don’t look back on deciding on
being open to this type of lifestyle. If
the time comes that this doesn't work anymore, I will deal with that then. For now, I am enjoying this sexy lifestyle
with someone I love!
The boyfriend and I recently returned from a sexy trip to another city
after the craziness of Christmas. We
decided to take advantage of having time off to venture somewhere where no one
really knew our faces for some “adventures”.
The experience inspired my creative side and I would love to recollect
our adventures in the next couple weeks…
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