For some of the more seasoned
Lifestyler’s reading this, most of these terms are probably old news. But to a lot of new couples interested in
exploring themselves, even talking to other couples can be intimidating when
you know what they are saying or asking!
I compiled a list below of the more common ones I hear or ones that took
me a LONG TIME to figure out! Remember
we were all new at this at some point – even me!
♀ 420: Code word used by marijuana smokers to let
other couples or singles know they are smokers.
♂
Bareback: Intercourse without using a condom.
♀ Bi-comfortable: Someone who has had some experience with
someone of the same sex (light fondling, kissing, etc.) and realized that while
they are comfortable with it they really prefer to play with people of the
opposite sex.
♂ Bi-curious: Someone interested in
exploring their bisexuality. Usually
this person has had little to no experience exploring with someone of the same
sex.
♀ Bi-sexual: Someone who takes pleasure in sexual play
with people of both genders. i.e. ME!
♂ D&D Free: Drug and disease free. Some people do not label marijuana as drugs
and some do. If it is a problem or
health concern to you, be sure ask. You
are allowed to communicate!
♀ Dogging: I actually did not know this one! So this is what I could put together! This usually takes place in parking lots,
where couples and singles meet up to have sex in their cars. Depending on the group, some will swap
partners, some singles will be there looking for couples or other singles and some
will just be exhibitionist and want others to watch.
♂ DP: An abbreviation used for double
penetration. This means a women has two
guys at once; one anally and one vaginally.
♀ Drama free: A term used to suggest a couple or single that
is comfortable in The Lifestyle and with their sexuality. Typically, they are free of jealousy and
bickering leading to less awkward moments and a sexy fun night!
♂ Drama: A term sometimes used by couples of The Lifestyle
to describe a couple or single who was not/is not ready to be in The Lifestyle.
This is often labelled with jealousy and
fighting when out at events with others in The Lifestyle. This can be to lack of communication
surrounding boundaries, trust issues or countless other things. This is why it is important to TALK!
♀ Fetish: A powerful sexual erotic urge to a particular
thing/action/event. For instance, there are
some people who are turned on by a body part (e.g. lips), while others are
tuned on by the thoughts of a gangbang.
♂ Full Swap: When a couple is engaging
in sexual pleasure with another couple and willing to swap partners sexually,
this includes penetration. It can also
been known as wife swapping, although I am not a big fan of that term.
♀ Gangbangs: A fetish that involves a women having sex
with multiple male partners at the same time. The woman is the center of
attraction and usually plays a submissive role.
♂ Group Sex: When multiple people partake in having sex at
the same time. Also called an Orgy.
♀ Hall Pass: When a couples allows each other to engage in
sexual experiences without the other present.
This could mean the couple is willing to set up one on one sexual dates
with other singles.
♂ HWP:
An acronym for height, weight proportionate.
♀ Meet & Greet: A social get-together of couples in The
Lifestyle at an off-premise location.
Couples can then meet others who are exploring their sexuality as well.
♂ Naturist: Someone who is a nudist and usually not a
part of The Lifestyle.
♀ No: This means "NO". Don’t be afraid to use this word if you are
uncomfortable or unsure of a situation.
Also, don’t take it personally if someone says this to you!
♂ On-Premise/Off-Premise: Open way of disclosing whether sexual activity
is permitted at the facility. On–premise clubs mean there areas where people
can play, off-premise clubs do not offer this.
♀ Orgies: When multiple people partake in having sex at
the same time. Also called Group Sex.
♂ Play: To engage in sexual activity. I think it’s a nicer and more classy way of
saying lets’ fuck, suck my dick or eat me out!
If you are asked to “play”, it means a couple (or someone) is interested
in doing more than a card game ;)
♀ Same Room or Separate Room Play:
Same Room is when a couple is comfortable with swapping partners but only in
the same room. Separate Room is when a couple wants to swap partners and be in
separate rooms while having sex with that other couples partner.
♂ Soft Swap: The easiest way to define
this is that there is no penetration outside of one’s own partner. This means
that vaginal / anal sex with another’s partner is normally not allowed.
♀ Takeover: Involves a group of lifestylers collaborating
and paying to secure 100% of a facility for a swinger party or event. We need to experience this still!
♂ The Lifestyle (LS): Ahh but how to
describe this one! Personally, we see
this as whatever you as a couple decides on what works for your relationship. This usually involves some sort of engagement
with other people or couples whether it is full swap, hall passes etc., but in
the end it is the Lifestyle that works for both of you. This can be revised and changed as your
relationship grows and as you grow together.
Really there is no right or wrong way of doing it as long as you are
living your life free of inhibitions and repression and enjoying time with
others who share the same outlook like you do.
♀ ThreeSome(3-some): This is usually a couple looking to bring in a
third (male or female) for some play-time.
♂ Unicorn: A single women who is part
of the Lifestyle and enjoys having sex with couples. A rare find hence the name!
♀ Vanilla: People who do not involve
kink in their lives. Also couples or
singles not involved in The Lifestyle.
♂ Voyeur: Someone who prefers to watch. For some
couples, the husband/boyfriend or wife/girlfriend are voyeurs and enjoy
watching the other playing. For some
couples both are voyeurs and in other occasions some are exhibitionists!
Take care my sexies xoxox
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